• A Desired Change

    by  • August 22, 2012 • General Chit Chat • 5 Comments

    It’s happening, my kids are growing up.  There is no way to stop it, no way to reverse it. My children’s younger years are starting to disappear.  The only plan I have is to evolve with them.

    Change is uncertain, and sometimes I fear it.  I fear my children, as they get older, will love me less. I fear that with the new marked independence, that only age can bring, my children will start to lose that wonderful naive innocence about them. Today, I choose to embrace fear.

    My son learned in one day flat, how to ride his bike without training wheels. The expression on his face speaks a thousand words. My daughter chasing my son down the street, speaks another thousand. I almost cried when he took off speeding down the street. I almost cried when my daughter started screaming “me too, me too!” Gone are the days of training wheels that kept his bike in balance, ensuring that he won’t fall off so easily. Gone are the days that my daughter can keep up with my son, which always leaves her feeling left out.

    My son has crashed his bike five times since that day.  Each time, I almost cried.  The last time got me thinking that I am really not sharing as much as I could with my readers. Writing a frugal living blog really limits me to how much I can share, and I don’t like limitations.

    As my children embark on their new-found growing up, I figured I should follow on my own path. Maybe it’s time for The Savings Momma to evolve, to include all that I have to share.  It certainly doesn’t make sense to write about children, marriage, and deep discussions about life on a frugal living blog, does it?

    So while I wait to hear back from my blog designer, as I still grapple with my children growing up in a split second, I will leave you with this: I will always be a frugalista, this will never change. I am creating a new blog in which I can share everything I have always wanted to share, a blog that all women can relate too.  My dream is to eventually merge the two blogs, which is what can be said for my life. Merge the frugal blog into my life blog, just as I would merge my frugal life to all the rest of it.

    I am so excited and have so much to share, and I really hope you read both blogs until I decide to merge them.  Until then, please tell me- in what ways are you handling your child(ren) growing up?  This Momma could use some advice and encouraging words of comfort :/

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    5 Responses to A Desired Change

    1. Amy
      August 22, 2012 at 12:42 pm

      Your post today brought tears to my eyes. I secretly dread the day that my almost 2 year old’s younger years change into the next phase. I know it is a part of life and I knwo you cannot prevent it, it is just so hard to watch them become more independent. I know the next phases will bring much joy and it’s own set of obstacles that will be just as amazing and challenging, but still those easrly years of innocense I know I will treasure the most. I struggle with my own set of challenges right now and it is hard to know whether the actions I take are the right ones. But it is what it is, there is no manual for this only experience.

      I leave you with an Elizabeth Stone quote which pretty much sums it all up for how I feel and it sounds like how you feel too. We moms and parents in general have to be a tough bunch, we cannot control and protect them forever.

      “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” ~E. Stone

      • Ashley B.
        August 22, 2012 at 12:48 pm

        What a beautiful quote! Thank you. I think all mothers can relate to this.

    2. August 22, 2012 at 2:30 pm

      I remember looking at my sleeping baby girl, torn between wanting her to stay little and cuddly forever and wanting her to grow, grow, grow and experience the wide world.

      Why can’t we have it both? :-(

      I love this post!

      • Ashley B.
        August 22, 2012 at 3:22 pm

        I wish we could have it both, I really wish we do. Thank you for the kind words :)

    3. August 24, 2012 at 11:40 am

      As with the other mom’s, I want to hold onto the moments of the youth of my son. I can’t ever believe he will ever be bigger then he is then 6 months later I look back and it has happened. I am expecting another little one soon and hope I can hold onto the moments. Looking forward to your new blog :) Saramae

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